One very common concern I hear from pet parents is:
“My dog is already one or two years old, but he still doesn’t behave like a mature adult. We are unable to manage him anymore, so we are thinking of giving him up for adoption.” But before making that decision, ask yourself one simple question:
Was a dog naturally designed to live according to human rules?
The answer is no.
Dogs are animals. They are not born understanding that they shouldn’t jump on the sofa, chew our belongings, bark at certain sounds, pull on the leash, pee at a particular place, stay alone for hours, or behave calmly around every person and animal they meet. We bring them into a human environment, so it is our responsibility to teach them how to live in it. And teaching takes time.
Before saying, “We cannot manage this dog anymore,” ask yourself:
“Have we patiently taught him what we expect from him?”
Bringing a dog home is exciting, but raising one requires something far more important than expensive food, toys, or accessories — patience.
A puppy does not arrive knowing where to pee, what not to chew, when to sleep, how to walk on a leash, or how to behave around people and other dogs. Just like a child, they learn through routine, repetition, guidance, and consistency — not punishment.
The most demanding phase is usually from 2 months to around 18–24 months, although this varies by breed and individual temperament. The first six months require frequent toilet breaks, supervision, socialisation, teething management, feeding routines, vaccinations, and basic training. Then comes adolescence — often between 6 and 18 months — when even a well-trained dog may suddenly become more energetic, distracted, stubborn, or adventurous.
Larger and slower-maturing breeds can remain mentally adolescent until 2–3 years of age. So don’t assume that a one-year-old dog should behave like a fully mature adult.
Patience also means understanding the reason behind behaviour. Chewing may come from teething or boredom. Excessive energy may mean inadequate exercise or mental stimulation. Barking can arise from excitement, fear, frustration, or alertness. Separation-related behaviour may simply mean your dog hasn’t yet learned how to feel secure alone.
Give them daily exercise, sniffing and exploration, positive training, proper socialisation, mental enrichment, sufficient sleep, and — most importantly — predictable boundaries.
Don’t expect perfection while your dog is still learning your world.
One day, the puppy who tested your patience will become the adult dog who understands your routine without you saying a word.
Raise them with patience today, and you’ll enjoy the companionship you built for years to come.
Pukhraj Dhatt
Founder, The Dogfather Hostel
